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Who should pay for what?
When should the cake be cut?
In what order does everyone stand for a receiving line.
Do you really need an event coordinator?
Emily Post wrote a book on etiquette many years before most of today's brides (or their mothers for that matter) were born. In this day and age, brides should know what the original traditions were (and still are) and, from that, be able to decide how to bend- or break- the “rules” of wedding etiquette.
Someone that wants a traditional wedding will want to follow Emily Post’s examples and will fuss over the details. While a very small percentage of the brides of the twenty-first century have the social gathering wedding of the past, there are still people that believe a wedding is not a wedding without all of the etiquette items followed. For these people, the devil is in the details. Etiquette is the central feature of the wedding and can be a flash point for discord leading up to the wedding.
With the rise of second and later-life weddings, many people are leaning away from the traditions and starting out on new and uncharted waters. They either had the big first wedding, or don’t see the importance of many of the rules from a century ago. These weddings can be beautiful and creative; elegant but not stuffy; and most of all personal to the couple. A couple that likes to sing can have Karaoke at the reception. A person that loves to sew can create a beautiful heirloom piece for a display table. Parents that have passed away before their “little girl” can walk down the aisle will need to decide who (if anyone) will give her away.
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